Time to Audit your friends ? How ?



We are living in a time when people and companies are trying to connect with as many people as possible. Facebook has created a new category of ‘friends’. We have people ‘follow us’ on twitter. People ‘Like’ our pages. All this is great. I have thousands under those categories. But how many real friends is enough?

You have probably heard the phrase ‘people come into your life for a reason season or for life’. This is a great philosophy but the trick is to know who is there for what and what do with those we collected along the way that no longer add any meaning to our lives.

Life can become very cluttered if we let it.

How many clothes in the wardrobe you no longer wear? How many gadgets in the cupboard you bought but hardly use? Do we really need all this STUFF?

Some people need just a small number of select friends.Some need life-long friends.Others need a constant flow of new people in their lives.

Why do a friends audit?

Life is too short to be wasting time with friendships that have no validity and only a sense of obligation.Each relationship requires some level of energy and time to maintain. There are only a limited number of hours in the day and week we can devote to maintaining relationships and keep our lives in balance.While we hold on to people and things there is no room for the new to arrive in our lives. Create the space and it will be filled. It’s a law of nature that a vacuum won’t exist for too long.Feeling obligated and resentful is bad energy and creates stress. This is not a healthy friendship.

Too Many Friends? How to do a friends audit

Here is a simple strategy I use when some colleagues tell me they want to create a new social life and network of genuine friends. You will need to do this on a piece of paper. Just doing it in your head won’t be as effective.

List the 10 most important things YOU value about friendship , Ask yourself what type of friends you want. Eg friends who are:- supportive, have integrity, fun, respectful, stimulating, caring, loving, challenging, enjoyable, companionship, common interests, excitement, honest, successful, committed, empathetic, appreciative, generous, thoughtful, spiritual, honest, open, positive, encouraging, responsible, independent, help you grow accepting, like minded ….are just some lace this list in order of priority. Ie the most important at the top down to the least important being number 10. Shuffle them around a bit and see how it feels.Write a list of the all the people in your life you class as friends. Give each person a tick if they match your values.The ones with the least ticks delete from your phone, address book.If they contact you they may still be meant to be in your life. You then choose whether to reinstate them or not. Some people need lots of support. You choose if you want to give that support because you want to not because you feel obligated. It could be your way of being a giving person.You have now created a world of like-minded people who are in harmony with your values and created space for the right people to come in.

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